We understand that making the decision to move a loved one into assisted living is never easy, no matter the circumstance. We like to remind our families or those considering assisted living options in southern NH that making this transition doesn’t mean your relationship has to change or your involvement with your loved one’s care come to an end.
Actually, what our years of experience in assisted living have taught us is that your continued and consistent presence, advocacy, and love remain essential parts of their well-being.
Still, it can be difficult to know how to manage this new reality of your relationship, which is why our team decided to suggest some meaningful ways to help you stay involved after the move. With any luck, this will make the overall transition easier and provide reassurance to your loved one that you will still be in the picture.
1. Establish a Visit Routine
If we’re honest, most of us thrive on routine and that’s why we strongly encourage our families to create a new routine that works for all involved. Whether that means once a week or once a month, regular visits provide comfort, consistency, and a sense of normalcy. Even short visits can brighten your loved one’s day, and provide you with an authentic opportunity to observe how they’re adjusting.
2. Create Connection Rituals
Obviously, you can’t be on-site all the time, so supporting your visit routine with what we call connection rituals can really help bridge the gaps when you’re not physically present. We’ve found that even simple routines like weekly phone or video calls go a long way.
And, who doesn’t love snail mail (provided it’s not a bill)? Consider popping postcards or photos in the mail, or an occasional care package full of favorite snacks, socks, any creature comforts you think might brighten your loved one’s day.
With so many streaming services and entertainment options out there, some of our families choose a show or movie to watch and then debrief about after — either over the phone or during the next in-person visit.
Whatever you choose, these small rituals go a long way in making your loved one feel remembered and valued.
3. Meet the Staff and Stay in Touch
This suggestion might be our favorite because we benefit from it, too! We love building relationships with the families who choose assisted living at one of our six locations. Whichever you choose, we invite you to get to know our caregivers and facility staff. Learn names, ask questions, and stay updated on your loved one’s care plan. A positive rapport helps ensure your loved one’s needs are understood and addressed quickly.
Speaking of questions, our recent blog post is worth a read: 10 Questions to Ask When Touring an Assisted Living Facility.
4. Be an Advocate, Not a Manager
It’s natural to want to oversee everything, especially if this is the role you’ve had for a long time. Old habits are hard to break. However, allowing your loved one’s trained caregivers to take the lead while advocating respectfully from the sidelines fosters a healthier, more collaborative environment for everyone involved. We’re all on the same team and it’s easier to advance towards the goal posts when everyone understands their role and respects the roles of those around them.
5. Support their Independence
Whenever possible, we hope you will encourage your loved one to take part in activities, socialize with others, and make their space their own. It can help if you show excitement for their growth and involvement so that they feel empowered, not supervised.
Rest assured, your continued support is critical during this life transition. By showing up, staying connected, and trusting in the care team, you help your loved one not only adjust, but thrive.
We welcome the opportunity to speak with you and answer any of your questions about assisted living at As Life Goes On. Contact us today to discuss your unique situation and needs.
